This is usually a blog about “Tackling Mommyhood”, but I’m going to derail again today and talk about something not related to mommyhood. Why, you ask?
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In case you don’t speak Croatian, let me break it down for you. Several major Croatian news sites decided to translate my blog post, Why I Choose Life In America and publish it on their respective front pages two weeks ago. The posts went viral on Facebook; people discussed it on their personal blogs; some news portals in neighboring countries even decided to post it on their news sites. As a blog writer, one would think that I was probably bursting with joy (the traffic to this site the past two weeks has been off the charts). However, instead of popping open a bottle of Moet, I wanted to make like an ostrich and bury my head in the sand.
For every person who applauded my bravery for bringing the truth of the state of the nation to light, there was someone else who was enraged that I would “defame” and “shame” Croatia in the “international community” the way that I did. After reading all the overwhelming comments and combing through the hundreds of private messages, I feel the need to write this follow up post to clarify a few things.
First, it was never my intention for my little post on my little personal blog to become national news in another country. I am just a person who was simply sharing my thoughts and emotions of the moment, and I did not expect my thoughts and emotions to spread like a wild fire and evoke such disappointment, anger and hatred from some people.
That being said, I am not sorry for what I wrote. I stand behind every word. I am sorry, though, if someone was offended by my perception of the truth. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, though – that is a human being’s basic right. You have to understand that although my heritage is Croatian, I was born and raised in America, where citizens are not vilified for expressing their opinions about the government, the people, and the way of life. We are not taught to be quiet and accept the negative doings of our government, our people and our society. In fact, the opposite is true – we are actually encouraged to discuss such topics because without discussion, change would never take place.
The Croatian media discuss the corruption and lackluster economy in Croatia on a daily basis. Why, then, am I not allowed to do so? I am someone who lived that corruption and who lived that lackluster economy for five years. If anyone has a right to talk about those things, it is me! I don’t understand why someone would be offended about me talking about my experiences and my view of the truth, especially if most of us can agree that this is the truth that we all hold to be true! My post would not have been front page news if it was not the truth.
To be clear: I have never said that I don’t love Croatia – I just don’t love the way Croatia operates. For instance, in that now infamous post when I discussed corruption and bribery, I did not state that every doctor or every policeman or every professor takes bribes in Croatia. No one can make such an absolute statement. I was simply stating that it DOES happen, much more often than it should and much more often than it does in a country like America where such bribery is practically unheard of.
I still love the Croatian culture, the beauty of the land, and the hopes of what could be that encompass you when you are swimming in the gorgeous waters under the intoxicating sun. I don’t know what tomorrow holds, but I do know that Croatia has a long way to go in order to get to where it needs to be. Most, if not everyone, can agree with that statement. I do have my opinions on how Croatia can get to where it needs to be, and I hope to share that in another post soon. In the meantime, for the things that we cannot agree on, we will just have to agree to disagree.
“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” – Albert Einsten